Ettiquette I’ve Learned From Creatives

Quite  a number of my friends are creatives, so sometimes when I have to work with them for whatever reason, I often take a step back to see how they do things and why it works.

When you study something in the traditional stream, like politics or law, it’s very easy to think that what creatives do is a waste of time.

Not waste of time like, ” ahw, what’s the point of that ” but in the sense that they are opting into having to rely on the shares and likes and retweets and external validation to get their work recognised.

It’s a brave thing to do – but that also means that they are holders of the optimal level of confidence. No person would put their work out there for the world to see and critique if they were not certain they did a flipping good job.

Then again, the term ‘ good job’ is subjective.

This came about ‘coz a mate of mine, Time Based Official recently put his work out, and bruuuuu the slander that he got on Twitter.

” Who made this trash ”

” What nonsense is this ”

” Take this shit down bru what were you trying to achieve ”

I don’t know how the processes work, but let’s say you spend a couple of weeks conceptualising your subject. Then there’s the obvious trial and error of it not coming out exactly as you had planned so you adjust here and tweak a little there. Take a couple of naps and come back for the final draft.

You do a couple of zen tings, hype yourself up and then boom. You drop that good good. Only for non creatives to come at you like they knew what went into it.

The people that responded to Time Based Official’s work weren’t even creatives. The one oke works at SARS, the other at a call centre (yeah I stalked em a little). There were a whole lot more other people but the extreme majority were not in the arts.

” So you gotta be an art baby to have an opinion about art / creative output? You playing Chizoba ”

That’s not at all what I’m saying. Live your best art critiquing life bru – all I’m saying is that other creatives saw his work and approached it with sensitivity.

They have a common respect for each other and the work they produce. It’s like an unspoken rule.

Random examples, you may know them or not but:

Rufaro always has amazing things to say about Shaske’s make up portfolio.

Peo is always down for fashion exhibitions to see what her class mates are up to and Prince has never missed an art gallery opening or exhibition.

They build each other even while they’re doing their own thing. Imagine building yourself and someone else. Hecticccccccc.

If you are going to give feed back, you give it in a way you would to your grandma or a baby – with all the love in your heart. Sounds lame, but it’s true. The way creatives talk to each other versus the way transitionalists (for lack of a better term) talk to artists is very different.

Creatives within each other’s circles understand that the output came from the heart, so when you give feed back , visualise it making it’s way into the artists heart.

Ettiquette I’ve learned from watching my creative friends.



  1. Aye
    October 15, 2017 / 10:46 pm


    Maaaahn, you get it gurl! You get it… I don’t know if I will ever have the guts to post my poetry under my real name. The struggle is so real. As much as we do the entire ‘I don’t care what they think’ dance, it stings. It always stings.

    I once read somewhere, or perhaps it was a Tedtalk (all of a sudden questioning whether or not this is worth saying out loud/ writing out loud?, what the hell… 15 minutes later; It was a Youtube video.) that the most creative place on earth is the grave yard. Powerful no? Fear, failure., whatever it is, a lot of the time it is just easier to keep things to yourself. Too much hate and all of that jazz. The struggle is so real!

    Thank you for this. 🙂

    • admin
      October 16, 2017 / 11:02 am

      Oh my , thank you so much for reading 🤗🌸
      And I can only ever hope to be half as courageous as creatives in this time. And the quote about the graveyard, CRAZY stuff at how true that it. Alot of people have such great work but will never expose it due to previously being burned. How lame is that?

      When you one day are ready to publish under your real name, please let me know. I would love to read it. I hope that’s some time soon, too. Life is too short to hide our talents. What if the world loves it? The worst that could happen is that we demand more of you than you can produce. And that’s never a bad thing 😉

      love and cake 🍰

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