It is what people call us, It’s how we brand ourselves and in the end, it is how we continue our lineage.
With that being said, I’m about to share a shocking discovery I made some time ago.
Remember the slightly dramatic post I made calling for all those in my life to call me by my first and full name, Chizoba?
Well, according to vital records, my first and full name is actually Sandra.
I was getting some documents filled, when for the first time ever, I took a proper look at my birth certificate.
Sandra Chizoba, it said.
Sounds like a stupid thing to not notice, granted, but most things related to certfcertific had always been dealt with by my parents, so I never really looked them over. ALSO, my ID says Chizoba first so, it was never a thing.
I have thing called a Life File and in it, is all papers deemed super important in some way or other. In there we’ve got ID copies, both degrees and their copies, dipoma and it’s copy, referrals and the business plan I once scribbled on serviettes (you never know when things could work out) .
So, I recently had to do some life administration, and it needed me to go as far back as including my birth certificate in what I was doing (I still thought I was Chizoba here lol). We made the pots to be done and boom. There it was. My second name, as my first.
😭who am I? *cues Frank Ocean, Jaden Smith and all modern day extensionionalists*
I took a deep breath and decided to text my mates real quick because maybe, just maybe they’d be able to justify the clerical error. I mean, nothing better than a (Whatsapp) group of strong problem solving women, right?
lmao next level wrong.
It went downhill from there.
Apparently, your name is also attached to how much people trust you. So in this case, it was new name, new person ..
And because I didn’t know my own name, how could I be trusted with the secrets of the squad? The secrets had to be given back 🙆.
So obviously at this point, I notice that the huns are not taking me seriously, so I pull out the big guns – I ask my dad.
1. Because he was there and he knows my real name and,
2. I now need to prove to my mates I know what’s going on 😂 or I’ll never hear the end of it when I give my opinion on something. ” Oh you think pink is a great idea? How do you know that, ‘COZ DON’T EVEN KNOW YO’ NAME, GURL’.
.. and I’m just gonna have to play it cool coz it’s not like they lying.
Anyway, I text the OG, my dad. Also known as Papa knowing he’s going to prove them wrong.
*ad break: so there is a minute before Papa corrects himself* and it’s in that minute that I went HAM on my huns 👏👏👏
On some ‘ I know my name niggass! What was that? Huh, WHAT was that? ‘
and then my dad sent the next few texts 😂😂 yasis if I thought my mates went in before, I never knew them at all.
So the question remains, what happens now? Will I change my name ?
Of course (not). Ill use whichever is applicable to the situation.
I’m sure most people of color know why we have an English name. So I intend to use it for those very purposes in conjunction with a twang on occassion.
Both names are mine and I will use them interchangebly because at the end of the day, when I go home to Durban my grand father will still call me Khanyisile because that’s what he’s beeeeeen calling me almost all my life regardless of all of us correcting him.